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From The R.O.S.E. Fund

 A very special day for us as 80% of our recipients are mothers
We wanted to provide you with a special Mother’s Day perspective from a former ROSE Award recipient as well as a brief operational update on our 2010 plans, progress and program impact.

 

In 2010, we remain ahead of our goal to deliver our services in a way that ensures that more than $3 of free reconstructive medical services are provided for every $1 of operational expense we incur (in 2009 we provided more than $2 of free medical services for every $1 of operational expense we incurred). 

 

We’re also happy to announce that our team of dedicated volunteers (many) and staff (of one) will be bolstered this summer and fall by an additional 6 college interns who are sure to increase our program impact and further ensure that your investments in ROSE continue to pay rich dividends to the population of courageous women we serve. 

  

ROSE Reconstructive Surgery Program-Our medical network of dentists, doctors and hospitals continues to expand and we are on pace to help more than 100 female survivors of domestic violence gain free access to several hundred reconstructive medical, dental and surgical services this year.  This program continues to have a profound impact on the lives of female survivors, enabling them to erase the physical reminders of their abusive past, rebuild their lives and regain their self-esteem.

 

2010 ROSE Award-Our quest continues to identify a courageous female survivor of domestic violence with an inspirational story to tell. We learn of several new nominations each week of women who have shown incredible strength and resolve in breaking the cycle of domestic violence and who serve as a powerful inspiration to others.  Follow us on Facebook to learn more regularly about these nominees and their journey into, through and out of domestic violence.  We’ll be announcing the 2010 ROSE Award winner later this fall.

 

ROSE Report Card-We are actively engaged in driving real change at high schools across the region helping them to break the silence associated with teen dating violence (TDV) on a local level.  Through a series of interviews and on-line surveys, we expose the prevalence and severity of the TDV issue within their high school.  Our thorough assessments also evaluate the high school’s current TDV policies and programs and are accompanied by an actionable set of recommendations around how best to improve the high school’s approach in addressing the TDV issue.  Our findings and recommendations serve as a powerful catalyst for affecting real change. This recently launched program has helped to transform high schools from ‘Unaware and Unprepared’ to ‘Informed and Effective’ in increasing domestic and teen dating violence education and prevention.  Our 2010 goal is to transform 25 high schools in New England, enabling more than 10,000 high school students to learn perhaps one of the most important lessons in life: how to identify, intervene and prevent unhealthy and abusive relationships for you, your family and your friends. 

    
Wonder how prevalent and severe teen dating violence is within your local high school?
(According to a Harvard University study, 1 in 5 girls in Massachusetts public high schools has been hit, kicked or punched by a dating partner.  It also found that those girls that have are 9 times as likely to attempt suicide)
 
Want to understand how well prepared your local high school is in preventing teen dating violence?

 

Call to learn more about how ROSE can transform your high school from an unwitting part of the problem, to an active part of the solution in breaking both the silence and the cycle of domestic and teen dating violence. 
 
Mother’s Day is a day to honor our mothers, to show them our care and warmth, and to celebrate the bond between mother and child.
 
Liz Meredith, a ROSE Award recipient in 1998, was recently thinking about just how special the bond is between she and her two daughters.  In catching up with Liz, she thinks back to Mother’s Day in 1994. Liz watched the pictures of her daughters faces flash across the news.  Her daughters were missing – taken out of the country by her abusive ex-husband.  Her children had given her the strength to break the cycle of domestic violence.  It was the day that her eldest daughter, then six years old, saw her husband strangling her that she decided she had to leave him. 

 

She divorced him, and won custody.  During an arranged visit, he picked them up from daycare and smuggled them to Greece.  Mother’s Day back then was not a special time to celebrate the bond and connection with her daughters, rather a tormented time wondering if she would ever see them again.  It took her 2 years, and thousands of dollars to find her children and bring them back to the US safely.  To owe so much money was just another way that he had control over her, another way that they as a family felt vulnerable and unable to move forward and rebuild their lives. 
 
In her own words:  “I recently pulled out my old video of the ROSE award dinner. It reminded me of how very much the award helped me put my life back together after dealing with so many years of abuse by my former husband.”
 
“Back then, I vowed to use the money to complete my graduate degree in psychology and write a memoir about my experiences of domestic violence and international child abduction.  In 2002, I completed my graduate degree“,  a degree that Liz soon put to work, as she secured an opportunity at a women’s resource center where she worked with other survivors for the next seven years.  She continued: “and now in 2010, I’ve nearly completed the third draft of my book ‘Summon the Rain’.   I’ve received some interest from literary agents, and am seriously pursuing publication now.”

 

Liz considers the ROSE Award to have played a critical and pivotal role in her life and that of her daughters.  “Not only did the award give me accountability to move beyond victimization and achieve the goals I set for myself, it (most importantly) gave my daughters and me hope to dream big, and faith that people cared. We were not alone after all.”
 
“My daughters are now 21 and 22 years old and are both in college.  I work as a probation supervisor.  Life has moved on for us all, and was filled with many residual struggles¸but we will never forget our experiences as survivors of domestic violence, and the wonderful opportunity you gave us to rebuild our lives.”
 
“To the ROSE Fund and its
supporters, thank you for playing such an important role in strengthening the bond between me and my daughters and for all of the amazing work that you do.  Happy Mother’s Day to all of you.”
 
Our ROSE recipients are all women – mothers, grandmothers, mothers-to-be or daughters. 

 

Help celebrate Mother’s Day this year by honoring your Mother and all mothers.

 
 

– To enable female survivors of domestic violence to rebuild their lives and regain their self-esteem

 
– To transform high schools, colleges and communities from ‘Unaware and Unprepared’ to ‘Informed and Effective’ in addressing the issues of domestic and teen dating violence.
 
Thanks again for your continued support.
 
Sincerely,
                                                                                                                                              
Dan Walsh
 

Chairman and Executive Director
The ROSE Fund
http://www.rosefund.org
781-929-1818
 

 
 
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Pick up next week’s copy of STUFF Magazine and read about ROSE reconstructive surgery recipient MaryBeth.  She shares her journey from victim to owning her own business.